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Aug 07, 2015 01:18PM ● By Press Release


By: Laurie J. James

Michael Jackson’s “Man in the Mirror” tells it all. The most compelling lyrics are “If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change.” 

Other’s see a different person than we see, because we’re in our own bodies. We need to be aware that our “mirror-image” is reflective of how we are actually feeling. Why do we let our self-talk get us down? Because we’re human!

As women, we rarely see in ourselves the “fabulousness” that others see in us.

Here are some quick remedies:

1)      Hang out often with several loving friends who will shoot straight with you and keep you honest – good or bad – about who you really are.

2)      Keep your positive affirmation going in your brain throughout the day. If you need help creating a positive affirmation, try using the letters in your first name as a starting point. One of my affirmations is: LAURIE = Loving my positive Attitude and Understanding that Real solutions come with Intentional Enthusiasm.” Give it a try with your name.

3)      Dress the part of a fabulous woman. Specifically, pay attention to your hygiene, your hair, your skin, your makeup (yes, makeup), and your body. Exercise, if possible. Take a brisk walk around your neighborhood or office at least once a day. Bring your dog, if you have one.

4)      Be thankful for all the great things that are happening in your life. If nothing great is happening for you, be thankful for great things happening in other people’s lives!! It will spill over into your world, I promise!!

5)      Look for opportunities during your day to smile and be positive. These are easily found – when you step into a grocery store, when you stop in to see a client … basically when you interact with other people. Be intentionally positive, and you will bless someone else. You will also be rewarded down the line for those efforts.

6)      Get a professional headshot and post it on your favorite social media site. You’ll be amazed at how your perception will change when others start sending you positive feedback.

When you start to see positive results, please let me know. Email: [email protected], and you will help MY self-talk!!

 Laurie J. James is one of only 16 Master Career Director globally. She co-founded and presided over the Professional Résumé Writing and Research Association from 2000-2004. PRWRA rebranded to Career Directors in 2005. Laurie has created 10,000+ job-winning résumés in her career. She is a local Dale Carnegie Performance Development Specialist, a seasoned public speaker and award-winning career image coach.